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Let's Pressure Ourselves To End All the Self-imposed Pressure

How was your spring break? Did you get a lot done? I didn't get very much done, but that's fine. In fact, it's fantastic.

Why didn't I get more done? One word: kids. They're awesome, they're busy and they had more than a week off from school. No camps, just me, all day long, because I'm a freelancer and therefore, flexible. There were moments of fun and excitement followed by cycles of downtime and boredom. (Boredom? Why, yes. It's the key to learning how to think creatively.)

Of course, my own boring moments of creative thinking inevitably fell by the wayside. Instead of writing, I averaged 12,000 steps per day, just trying to keep up. There was neither the time, nor the energy, to think much about writing.

And I'm fine with it. Scrapping impossibly ambitious "to do" lists in favor of small, attainable daily goals has been a part of my personal evolution in recent years. I can relax and be in the moment, therefore I am. I'm still a work in progress, but I'm getting there.

Now I'm getting back to work and reading headlines that implore us to expect nothing less than the impossible from ourselves, and how to make it happen.

"Want Big Things Out of Life? Expect Big Things of Yourself," screams Entrepreneur. "5 Ways To Be More Productive," suggests The Huffington Post. "Keep Yourself Busy for a Better Chance of Getting Things Done," blurts The Financial Times. "You Need To Practice Being Your Future Self," demands Fox Business.

Future self? Oh, enough already. We need more articles about how to scale down and pace ourselves more calmly today, because life is a marathon instead of a sprint. We must find our own pace, and then run our own race. Most of all, we need to stop putting so much needless, self-imposed pressure on ourselves.

Remember, Rome wasn't built in a day. In fact, ancient Rome took a thousand years to build. That's right: A thousand years. Now that's some serious project ramp up time, when you stop to think about it.

We can't do everything well at once; the best we can hope for is to knock one big thing off our list today. We may not get everything done this afternoon, but that's what tomorrow is for, right? Don't worry, it will all get done. Just ask your future self.


  1. Love the points you make. I'm going to run out [no, I'll stroll] and share this with others!


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